Working Vs. Staying Home, I Have Done it All

I can say I have pretty much done it all. I have worked full-time, I have worked part-time,  I have been a stay at home mom  for 2 years and I have now added work at home mom to the list.   Not one of these positions would I label as easy. I worked part-time after my first son was born. Working part-time outside the home was nice because it gave me more time with my son that most but also got me out of the house. Especially because his first year was a roller coaster ride. I thought it was good for my son to go to daycare and be around another caregiver. Plus it would give him interaction with other children too. I got pregnant again when my first was a little over one. I then decided to go back full-time to save more money. He was taking one long nap a day so I figured why not make a little more money while he is sleeping anyway.

We really needed to save up a little money this time around. I thankfully was done with work by three in the afternoon so I still felt I had more one on one time with my son. I just didn’t want to be the mom who pick up her child, got home and had to make dinner, and then before I knew it be putting my child to bed. Not that there is anything wrong with that I just didn’t want that for myself or my son. I will say I was lucky for a while.
After I had my second son as hell broke loose. I went back to work wanting at least twenty hours a week and then planned to increase to thirty. Well, my boss hired someone to fill my spot while I was gone and could barely give me ten to fifteen hours. It was a mess and my office just wasn’t the same. A lot of the staff were unhappy and negative. To top everything off, my babysitter I had at the time had way too many children to take care of. I’m not kidding to start with she had three or four one year old kids to start. And that wasn’t including the couple two year old and three year old kids she also had. It wasn’t that I didn’t like her. I just knew she didn’t have the time for a newborn. My mother-in-law sai d she would take the kids because she didn’t have a job. So that was great. Until a week later she got offered a job and took it. OH MY GOODNESS!!! So for a while she had the kids two days a week and one of my sisters took them one day for a half a day. It was crazy and just didn’t work. So finally, after being back to work for barely four months I had a major issue with my boss. I always use to do anything he asked before I had kids. Work extra hours and sometimes weekends, or even go to other sites. So, he in a way expected it.
Well, after getting slammed in the face with going back to work and someone taking my place I had to make adjustments. I just couldn’t be there whenever at whatever noticed anymore. Nor did I have to. We had a big blowout and I felt very disrespected. I ended up quiting my job. An even bigger OH MY GOODNESS!!!!

 I did a lot of soul searching and decided I wanted to go back to school for nursing. I was very excited and I knew it was something I really wanted. Well, a sweet little unexpected surprise came my way. I was pregnant with baby number three. This was basically a HOLY **** moment.  Going back to school was put off and I was officially a stay at home mom. Daycare for three kids is ridiculous and it was just not worth it for me to work.

I truly have to say, staying at home was quite an adjustment for me after being use to working outside the home. Most of the time, I am happy to have the opportunity to stay home.  But there are definitely days when I miss getting out and having that adult interaction.

 Many of my days are quite busy and I can’t even begin to tell you where the day has gone.  I know when my kids were in daycare I wanted the babysitter to be interacting with my kids and teaching them things. I wanted to believe they just weren’t being put in front of the tv. Now the tables are turned and I am the one realizing how easily that can be done.  You spend your day trying to give each child the time they need, plus cleaning up what seems never ending, doing laundry, breaking up fights or disciplining, and whatever else may come your way.  I never sit on my butt and do nothing.   Especially now that I am also working from home.  I do about 4-6 hr of work each day.  Spreading it out early morning, naptime, and evening.  It is all a balancing act, on ein which i am still trying to master.  You are a mom twenty four hours a day, with very little breaks. I’m not complaining by any means. I love being a mom and would not change it for the world. But I promise you staying home all day can be quite challenging at times and it is most certainly a full-time job and then some. For me I do feel staying home is a little more difficult than working outside the home.  Mainly because the role of “Mommy”  is constant.  Sometimes is can be hard to seperate yourself and many women loose their definition of “self” at some point.  Really all in all, I don’t think any position is easy or without some type of sacrifice. You just do the very best you can, regardless of the role you play.

Don’t Miss IT!!! A NEW post each day for the next 4 days submitted by guest readers. Topic of Discussion, “Challenges We Face as Working Moms – Both Mothers Who work outside the Home & Those who Stay at Home.”

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1 Response to Working Vs. Staying Home, I Have Done it All

  1. Audra says:

    Wow, as somebody who doesn't have any kids, but is planning to be a stay-at-home mom one day, it's nice to hear somebody be honest about what it is and what is isn't. Good thoughts.

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