Mission Mommyhood: Striving to find the Perfect Balance

I have found that my biggest challenge as a mother is to find that “Perfect Balance” in my life as a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend, and most recently I have also thrown working from home into the mix. I have found myself falling short in one area or another and at times feel overwhelmed and frustrated. I continue to realize more and more each day, how important finding that balance is. Also realizing that the balance I am longing for, is ever changing. It’s learning to prioritize and know when you need to tip that balance towards one way or another. I can be my own worst enemy. I sometimes set my expectations of what I accomplish too high, which in the end only leads my in the wrong direction. As mothers we need to be realistic with what we can take on and handle. It doesn’t matter what other mothers are doing.

We need to STOP comparing ourselves to other mothers and also STOP being so judgmental. STOP hiding the real truth.  There is no true”SUPERMOM.” You know the one who can do everything  and do it so perfectly.   I do truly love being a mother and a wife. But there are days I would love to get away and let go of all my responsibilities and expectations. Days that bed time just can’t come fast enough. But I have plenty of great days.  These are the days that make me forget the bad ones.  Really good days even make me think, I just might be able to handle just one more little monster.  🙂  I have days when I am madly in love with my husband and I have days when I feel as though we are a bit disconnected. Some days I have dishes filling up the sink or have a mountain of laundry on my basement floor.  I am human and I will never be “Perfect” at everything.  My main goal is to enjoy and remember the good days and to be happy most of all!
This is not a race to the finish line, nor is it a challenge of who can survive the longest or who can out do the other. It is about coming together as mothers, supporting one another, doing the best we can to balance our lives, and in the end truly be happy with where we are.

A relative once told me:

Becoming a mom I have found that it is very important to find balance in your life. We can’t do it all or do everything perfectly. If you try you will just run yourself ragged, be overwhelmed and unhappy.

Motherhood will bring out the very best in you but can also bring out your worst. It happens to the best of us, so try not to beat yourself up! Some days you will enjoy being a mother, other days you’ll say to yourself “What the heck was I thinking!”

Other mothers are your greatest wealth of information. They are your best source for support, for understanding, a shoulder to cry on, an ear when you need to talk, advice when you need it and none if you don‘t. You will find out that you are not completely insane and that we all experience the same things in this journey of motherhood. It helps tremendously to know that we are not alone.

I couldn’t have said it better myself!!!

So, here’s to finding a balance, supporting each other as fellow mothers, and doing our best to simply enjoy the life that we have.

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3 Responses to Mission Mommyhood: Striving to find the Perfect Balance

  1. Tootsie says:

    They grow up so fast…before I knew what was going on it seems they are 4,9&10!!!I learned about 5 years ago that I cannot be supermom…and that I had to make choices every day if I was going to survive motherhood!I am here from Saturday SITS!!! I have enjoyed my visit!

  2. Theta Mom says:

    I blog about this topic frequently, because I am such a big believer that as busy moms, we need some time to ourselves as well! Finding the balance is a challenge, but must be done! Nice to "meet" you, just found your cute blog from SITS! Would love to follow if you folow as well! 🙂

  3. Evonne says:

    Great post!When I first started staying home with the kids, it took me a while to find a good balance between being involved in what my kids do, keeping up with the house, and some me time.If we try to be perfect, I think we miss out on so many things. All we can do is our best and hope things turn out the way we want.

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