Loving Pregnancy Debate

Loving Pregnancy Debate
Do you love and truly enjoy being pregnant?
Have you ever heard or ever said, “I’m not a happy pregnant person,” “I’m just not one of those women who enjoy being pregnant?”
This a topic of discussion that gets brought up quite often between mothers.
This has been brought up to me many of times.  Why?  Because I am apparently one of the RARE mothers who loves pregnancy.  I would ever think of being a surrogate if I thought I could handle it emotionally.  Unfortunately I don’t think I could due to a bit of post partum depression.  
I just get a bit frustrated of the whole, “I’m not like you.  You love being pregnant.  You don’t gain a lot of weight.  You aren’t moody.  You don’t seem uncomfortable.  Some people are just made to be pregnant.”
I do truly love being pregnant!  Feeling your baby move all around inside your belly.  Knowing your growing a life, a little person inside you. It’s just amazing and truly a miracle of life!!!

With that said, boy do I have news for you.  Guess what?! 

I have had morning sickness for the first 14 weeks with each pregnancy.  The first two were the absolute worst.  Forget about just feeling tired.  How about feeling as though you have a stomach bug constantly with NO relief and not being able to vomit even if you wanted to.  I’m talking all day, all night nausea along with dry heeving daily.  I can remember with my 2nd pregnancy I had a really dumb thought to try my mother-in-law’s salad at dinner.  She adds so many things to it, it is so so good.  But during the first 3-4 months I pretty much can only eat carbs.  Anyway, it looked good so I actually gave it a try.  Within 30 minutes I was in her bathroom on the floor in a ball.  I thought my insides were going to literally burst. I can take a lot of pain and I was seconds from having my husband bring me to this nearest ER.  Thankfully I threw up and went to the bathroom and everything settled down. 
I do tend to only gain 20lbs or a little more.  But that is by choice.  I eat healthy to begin with and contiue to do so while pregnant.  I do allow myself to splurge a little more though.  Just not to the extreme.  What you don’t know is that I am very weight conscious and am terrified that I won’t be able to loose the extra weight afterwards.  And I don’t have any desire to have to worry about that.  And if that were to happen, I could have a downward spiral to a past eatting disorder. 
I do have aches and pains.  I have heartburn, my back hurts, I do have my hormonal moments, and I by 6 to 7 months I have a permanent foot lodged in my ribcage.  I also get braxton hicks contractions everyday starting at 5 to 6 months and am out of breath after walking up one flight of stairs.  If you know me well, you might now these things.  Maybe not.  It’s just in my opionion it’s all so incredibly worth it in the end.  Don’t get me wrong by the time 9 months come along, I also can’t wait for delivery day. 
I too have had a miscarriage.  It’s a very hard experience to go through.  I was lucky in that I had already had a child and knew it was possible.  I can remember the fear and nervousness when I got pregnant afterward.  Wondering everytime I went to the bathroom, if I would see blood.  But then I made a choice to enjoy things in the moment.  Because in the end you can do everything right and it is still out of your hands. 
I’m not saying pregnancy is easy or that it is the same for every women.  We all know it’s not. And I am by no means saying you don’t have the right to complain a little.  But I do believe you can make the choice on how you are going to deal with pregnancy. You can focus on the little miracle you have created or you can dwell on all the uncomfortable not so good things. It’s a CHOICE!!! Pregnancy and childbirth are such an amazing experience and a true miracle. Regardless of how it happens. I am thankful I have had uncomplicated pregnancies and 3 healthy children in the end.

Please feel free to tell me your thoughts!!!


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3 Responses to Loving Pregnancy Debate

  1. Kimberly says:

    I 100% agree with you! I loved being pregnant & I can so completely relate to your story, except I had 2 very complicated pregnancies. I was in the hospital for 3 wks with my 1st son, in which I was put on all the drugs possible to stop the pre-term labor (I was already @ 7cm!). That was a little bit of misery, but I loved being able to just feel my baby in my belly. And then with my 2nd, I began experiencing preterm labor around the beginning of the 2nd trimester, so there were many, many trips to the hosital & meds, & then bed-rest for nearly 6 months. BUT I loved being pregnant, depite it all. I just loved that feeling of connecting with your baby, knowing & growing with them. You're so right it is an amazing miracle. I'm so grateful that I'm a woman so I can be a part of the circle of life in this way.

  2. Tiffany says:

    I think you are absolutely right! Our reaction to everything is a choice – including pregnancy! This was a great post! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! {grin}

  3. Helene says:

    I love this post! I appreciate your honesty!I have 2 sets of twins and both pregnancies were extremely difficult…lots of pre-term labor and hospital stays. That part I didn't enjoy, obviously. But I loved feeling the babies move inside me, I loved listening to their heartbeats every night before turning into bed (on a home doppler that a friend lent to me), I loved watching my belly grow (even though I felt like a beached whale most of the time). For the most part, I just loved the fact that I was pregnant finally…both times. We went through infertility treatments for our 1st set of twins and so that pregnancy especially was very memorable for me. I also had miscarriages so I can identify with what you wrote about that too. Never taking that 2nd twin pregnancy for granted and realizing what a true miracle it was.Stopping by from SITS! I've enjoyed reading your posts!

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