It apparently wasn’t suppose be bashing the role of SAHM but the vibe I got from the postee and her comments it certainly seemed to be the case. To be honest I think she was just trying to validate her position of being a working mother and make herself feel better about her position. I am by no means trying to point fingers and play the blame game. That’s not me but it really touched home and I felt the need to discuss it. Regardless, everyone is entitled to their own feelings and opinions.
But with that being said, let’s face it ladies. There are opposing teams and a lot of judgement when it comes to this topic. I just don’t understand this at all. Unfortunately women will be women and with that comes jealousy, envy, cattiness, and many mothers tend to be very judgemental of each other. I would really love to see more women supporting each other regardless of the role they play.
Working, staying at home, or doing both from home all have their moments. I can say this with confidence because I have done it all. Our job as mothers does change and can become more challenging with each additional child. We all have similar and different challenges depending upon our own particular circumstance. Every mother and child is different. And some moms can handle more or less before reaching their breaking point compared to others. You can’t just put a label on someone and say they do or don’t have it easy. It simply isn’t fair.
I read through all the comments to the initial discussion post. Even though people said they weren’t posing judgements, they were, and I’m sure many were being formed. I myself tend to hear more judgement of the role of SAHM. But I know it definitely goes both ways. It is a bit frustrating to me in the end and the questions come up of “Why is it such a debate?” and “Why does the role you play matter so much?” We all have the overall similar goal to be the best mothers we can be.
I am for certain staying home is no easy task. For those of you who say it so easy and you get bored BLESS YOU!!! I am a mom to three boys under 5 and there is never a day that goes by that I am bored. Now that I also work from home, time management can be even more challenging.
But when I worked (both full and part time) I still had challenges to. They were just different. I never looked down upon SAHM, nor did I think it was easy, and I certain didn’t envy their role. And now that I stay at home/work from home I don’t envy mothers who work outside the home either.
It is a choice. Your choice! And women need to be happy with their decisions and stop judging others. Really all in all, I don’t think any position is easy or without some type of sacrifice. You just do the very best you can, regardless of the role you play.
(CLARIFICATION – I think really the choice is more of whether you can be happy and secure within yourself and your specific situation. Not every mother has the actual choice to stay home or work outside the home.)
Why is it such a debate?
Why does the role you play matter so much?
What are your thoughts?