Mental Notes For Mommy…Crying It Out Really Does Work

All of my four little men had/have painful reflux for the first year of life.  Monkey M still does.  He has been a bit more of a challenge with sleeping.  He of course needed to be elevated 30 degrees to help his reflux symptoms just like the other monkeys in the house.  The challenge was he would only sleep for longer periods of time on his belly.  As you know, that’s not recommended per the majority of pediatricians.  We had a special RES-Q wedge that was specifically made for babies with reflux.  Thank goodness it had a side for tummy time.  It was the only thing I felt comfortable lying him on.

So what was the problem?
His reflux was finally completely under control.  He got sick and more mobile within weeks of each other.  He started waking up more frequently at night.  Once he was feeling better his sleeping was a still a mess.  The RES-Q wedge wasn’t working anymore because he kept trying to roll over to his belly and didn’t like it.  He was finally flat in the crib for the first time in 7 months.  Two months later he was still waking up several times a night.  When I say several I mean 5-6 times a night.  I exhausted every other option I could think of to try to get him to sleep better.  I was so tired I started to bring him in bed with us just to get some rest.  *Gasp*  We always said we would NEVER have the kids in our bed unless they were sick.  Have I mentioned that our littlest monkey has made me a bit of a softy.  I knew crying it out was probably going to be the next step.  But this time, I was apprehensive.  I didn’t feel comfortable letting him cry it out on his belly to begin with but whenever he cried it inevitably flared up his reflux.  But his reflux was doing well.  I just didn’t want to do it to my last little one.  There is something about your last baby.  I cant explain it.  Things just pull at my heart more these days, knowing he is my last.

Last Thursday the sleep deprivation was at it’s max. The exhaustion and frustration set in.  I knew he was dry, he was fed, and he wasn’t sick.  He needed to get to sleep on his own.  I finally let him cry it out. I sat down on the couch with a glass of wine and watched Modern Family with my hubby.  I wasn’t having fun partying it up by any means.  The wine was for my nerves and the TV was a distraction.  I could still very well hear him and it pulls at my heart terrible.  He cried for one straight hour.  Gosh, babies are persistent.  (For the record, I had already tried the whole go in after 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, etc.  I just made things worse for him in my experience. I did check on him after he stopped crying to make sure he was perfectly fine.  I HATED every minute of hearing him cry.  BUT…the end justifies the means.  He slept until 7:45am the next morning without a peep out of him.  I woke up at 5am and jumped out of bed to check on him.  He was sleeping peacefully.  The second and third night he only cried for about 20 and 10 minutes.  Last night he was silent from the start.  WOOHOO!!!  Not only that but the length of his naps have improved greatly.  He was only sleeping 40 minutes and now he is sleeping for 1 1/2 hours at a time.  Mama and baby are officially sleeping better.  The sleeping challenge has been met and defeated!

So in conclusion mamas..once again…Crying it out really does work.  It has for me every time.

** I do understand that the CIO Method isn’t for everyone.  This is a method used to get older infants/toddlers to learn how to self-soothe themselves to sleep.  I chose to use this method between the ages of 6-10months with my boys after trying many other methods.  
All of my children are 100% fine.  They have learned to get themselves to sleep and have very healthy sleep habits now.  They are actually the best nappers/sleepers out of just about everyone I know. They were not/have not been neglected/harmed physically or mentally in any way due to using the CIO Method.  

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